What Can Counselling and Psychotherapy Help With?
Counselling and psychotherapy can be effective for a range of emotional problems and difficulties.
You might be feeling.....
- unable to cope or to resolve conflicts
- burdened by resentment, disappointment or despair
- that family problems are too much to bear
- that it is becoming more and more difficult to recover from stress or cope with stressful situations
- lonely, empty or depressed or feeling that you have to cope with extreme mood changes
- overwhelmed with feelings of grief or sadness
- anxious and 'panicky' and unable to concentrate
- curious, anxious or worried about your sexuality
- concerned about eating or drinking problems
- worried about a problem with gambling
- that you have difficulties in making or keeping relationships, or that you repeatedly become involved in unsatisfying or destructive relationships
- that you have to harm yourself to feel better
- that life is not worth living or that there is little hope for change
- anxious that you are retiring, redundant and feel lost
- physical problems have become a struggle or perhaps they are not easily explained and don't seem to fit into any diagnosis
- anxious at where your life is going and what it's all about
Coming into therapy can help you to explore and make sense of what you are feeling enabling some clarity and perspective.
Some of the difficulties which can be addressed through counselling and psychotherapy are;
Relationship difficulties, either individually, as a couple or both.
A relationship with a partner is one of the closest relationships we can have and if it has become strained and communication has become difficult it can have a detrimental effect on how we feel about ourselves and on our happiness. If you are struggling with your relationship and feel that your arguments seem to go around in circles and nothing gets resolved, it might be worth seeing a couple or relationship therapist. It can help to make sense of why conflicts cannot be resolved and why communication has become difficult and enable a different way of approaching problems together - Please see our Couple Therapy page for more information on Couple and Relationship Therapy.
A separation or divorce can be a traumatic and emotional experience. Sometimes confusing and overwhelming feelings need to be understood and worked through.
Problems with sex.
Problems with sex can be caused by a whole range of emotional and physical issues. Seeing a psychosexual therapist can help in identifying underlying difficulties which are manifesting themselves in sexual dysfunction, premature ejaculation or lack of interest in sex either as a couple or individually. Our specialist psychosexual therapist has spent several years working in a specialist psychosexual therapy clinic at Guys Hospital in London and has a wealth of experience. Working with your GP can be helpful if problems seem to be related to a physical cause.
Working individually with a psychosexual therapist can help in making sense of other associated psychosexual issues such as problems around sexual identity and gender issues.
Loss & Bereavement - however long ago.
If a loss has not been grieved appropriately feelings of anger and depression may manifest themselves in other areas, including physical symptoms, sometimes years later. This is not only about bereavements but can be any loss ie, divorce, separation, miscarriage, abortion, job loss, retirement, loss of health, loss of a relationship etc. Any unexpressed feelings associated with early losses can have an affect on how we deal with current losses and need to be explored and understood to enable their working through and resolution - allowing effective coping and resolution of current and future losses.
Feelings of not coping.
Overwhelming feelings of not coping with a life event or with life generally can feel hopeless and make life seem futile. By understanding the origins of these reactions and feelings and exploring what it all means to the individual, can enable a new perspective and a sense of empowerment, control and freedom leading to change.
Anxiety, fear and panic including panic attacks.
We can all feel anxious at times, it's a normal reaction to unsafe situations but when it becomes an everyday feeling anxiety can be debilitating affecting every area of life leaving the sufferer feeling powerless, out of control and in constant fear. By exploring the early origins of the fear, anxiety and panic, and understanding the processes involved in maintaining these feelings, the power motivating the feelings and the need to continue can be reduced.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) can be effective in helping the effects of panic attacks, anxiety and fear, by attempting to change the thought processess associated with the symptom.
Difficult or frightening feelings around a previous trauma or distressing event
If you have suffered from a traumatic event or have experienced ongoing distress over a period of time whether that be childhood neglect/abuse or more recent abuse or bullying, it can be relieving to see a therapist to help to make sense of what has happened. EMDR therapy can be helpful in processing the memories in a different and less frightening way.
Low self esteem, lack of confidence, feelings of inadequacy.
Feeling as though you are not good enough, or that you don't have the confidence to live life more fully doing the things you want to do, can feel restricting, frustrating and leave the sufferer feeling out of control and powerless. By exploring how you see yourself in relation to others and the world and understanding how and why you have found yourself in this repeating role, can feel enlightening and empowering. Working with someone who values and repects you can enable a new perspective and a new role in life.
Depression, low mood, intense sadness & grief including post-natal depression.
We can all feel low and down from time to time but depression goes further and can feel hopeless and desparate with all purpose in life gone. By exploring and understanding early experiences and relationships, previously unexpressed feelings can be expressed appropriately in the here and now and worked through enabling a greater sense of self awareness, purpose and fulfillment.
Post-natal depression following the birth of a baby can feel desparate and symptoms can include low mood and tearfulness, severe anxiety (sometimes around safety of baby and/or self, and fear of own health), paranoia, fear, panic. These feelings can emerge up to several months after the birth.
Problems with our health can be a frightening experience and can evoke a grief reaction as with any other loss. We can feel powerless and feel depressed at the loss of how our life once was. However insignificant it may seem, loss needs to be worked through and its meaning to that individual understood enabling acceptance, as in all losses, otherwise unexpressed feelings can manifest themselves in other areas including anxiety, fear, panic and depression.
Eating disorders/problems with eating.
Problems with controlling food intake (anorexia), compulsive eating and bingeing and vomiting (bulimia) need to be understood in the context of the individual's early life experiences. Understanding the purpose these behaviours served early on and continue to serve enables the individual to express the underlying feelings and work through them.
Child and adolescent behaviour/emotional difficulties.
Behaviour problems in children are the symptom of underlying difficulties either as a reaction to a life event or ongoing family difficulties. A child psychotherapist is trained to access those feelings which cannot be expressed verbally, through play, drawing and games, bringing a sense of relief to the child thus reducing the need to 'act them out'.
All families experience difficulties from time to time. Sometimes it may be necessary to explore together with a family therapist the underlying difficulities causing an imbalance in the family dynamics and perhaps learn new ways of relating to each other.
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